My name is Aidan Donnelley Rowley. I am an author living in New York City with my husband and three young daughters, whom I've affectionately dubbed the Rowlets (and Big Girl, Middle Girl, and Little Girl on this blog). I was born here in Manhattan and am the middle of five sisters. I studied philosophy at Yale, went to law school at Columbia, and practiced as a litigation associate at a big firm for a short while before jumping ship to write full-time. My first novel Life After Yes was published in 2010 and my second novel The Ramblers was published by William Morrow in 2016.

I started a blog, originally called Ivy League Insecurities, in 2009. At the time, I was anticipating the publication of my first book, in the trenches of parenting young kids (my eldest two were 2.5 and five months at the time) and I'd recently lost my father to cancer. Long story short, I was a bit of a mess and came here, to write, and to process my life. For the past eight years, I've continued to come here and share bits and pieces of myself and my life. I've written, and continue to write and ask questions, about identity, parenthood, sisterhood, marriage, loss, presence, alcohol, anxiety, nature, books and more. I cherish this spot and connecting with my readers.

I am also the founder/curator of Happier Hours Literary Salons where I connect current authors of fiction and non-fiction with a community of smart, book-loving women. To learn more about Happier Hours, visit

In December 2016, I started @drybeclub on Instagram. This is a little club of sorts for those of us who are living, or merely curious about living, the dry life (a.k.a. life without alcohol).

I hope you take a moment to poke around this place. Feel free to follow me on Twitter and Instagram at @adonnrowley and I would love to hear from you at aidandonnelleyrowley [at] gmail [dot] com.